The only thing you can be sure of in Second Life is that you can never be sure. If someone is a man or a woman. Young or old. They can use voice but you cant be sure they dont use a morph. They can have a “Real life” picture in the profile but you cant be sure its not a model or a random pic from the net. You cant be sure its a “first avie” or an alt either.
So how do we deal with this mess? Well this is sort of the soul in virtual worlds. You can be everything u want and you should. No one is allowed to force you to change or demand that you reveal your real life identity in any way. If a person want a real life relationship they should move on to a real life dating site instead of a virtual world. This is a
game, (ok Virtual World!) its fantasy and all fun. So if you treat everyone the way you want to be treated yourself, there is no problem, no drama.
Dont get hungup on if its a man or a woman, young or old or whatever. Its not an issue in Second Life. If its a big deal to you, you are in the wrong place and should move on.